So, some in our household are anxious to move. Others, not so much. Bankers are kind of on the fence. They don’t seem so fond of the idea of contingencies or two mortgages and the simplest way seems to be to sell one house and then go buy another. Just where do you live in the meantime? We’ve seen some people goto a smaller apartment – and that adjustment in lifestyle seems to add to the pressure to find a new place. That can be motivating, but also stressful it seems.
I started wondering how come we don’t do things the college way anymore? That is, take in roommates? Sure, we’re a family now, but shouldn’t there be another family that is as good a fit as some of the college roommates I’ve had in the past?
With two substantial rents being added together, it seems like we could get a nice house in a good school district to live in. Just that we’d need to adapt lifestyles with another family in the household.
We were talking to another family (they can out themselves if they like, I won’t) about this. One said that their family did it when they were younger. They don’t speak to that other family anymore though. Ha ha – brush off that data point and keep going with my idea, is the way I approach things.
We covered some basics – but overall, this uncommon idea didn’t have a showstopper.
- Need to give benefit of the doubt
- Don’t feel slighted if not invited out to something
- Don’t be afraid to invite yourself
- Everyone’s going to have to get used to more farting
- Need to maybe have a quiet area (a smaller area though, so not every adult can fit in it)
- Maybe have hats to wear for “do not disturb” or “looking to chat” (married folks adaptation of signs on doorknobs in college dorms)
- Reduced left overs
- Hire cleaning folks
I think the one that Catherine and I held back, would be how the other family would constantly be asked to serve as the panel on the Marriage Ref. Our “discussions” usually don’t end up with either side really changing their mind – and we’d love to have some help in getting things decided. Picking the right family to do this with becomes even more important in that light.
There are clearly some families that this wouldn’t work out with for us – which was a fun though experiment in itself. But there are some that it might work with. But we haven’t heard of anyone doing this and though that should raise some warning signs, I’m not convinced of them.
I’m guessing, if we did go into this experiment for a year (ample time to find a house, right?) we’d leave that year with the new, concrete knowledge of why people don’t do this more often. A fun learning experience though, huh?
Feel free to send me your family’s application…